The holidays really owned me this season. That sounds like what I'd like to say. The truth is, I've never had so much time on my hands to contemplate exactly what it is that I'm trying to accomplish with my personal life, my family life, and potentially my professional life -- as an author?
I could spew out a bunch of cliches like "I've come full circle" or "I've learned what matters most." But neither of those would be an accurate label on just exactly what's going on in Mimi's conflicted head.
So, here's what I've decided. Only one thing matters. Here it comes. The beauty of FORGETTING. Along with it comes forgiving, of course. But the ability to sit down, at peace and have a clean slate in your own mind is the key to life. If you can let go and really move on from all of the indiscretions and indecencies that have put you in a state of contention, you can be free of hostility, rage and hatred.
I'm not trying to come up with a new elementary school plan on how to play on the playground. I'm specifically talking about how to make a relationship work. Try hard to remember the basic rules that you remember at the office: Don't speak while others are speaking. Present a problem along with a solution. Be courteous and respectful. Unlike at the office, at home, be willing to explore and enjoy. And remember, like dating, not all experiences will be great. So make a vow to forget about them. Focus on the positive.
Now, if your neighbor paints his house pink, you can't exactly forget about that.
Where is this sentiment coming from? Good times and bad. I can only remember the good ones and am looking forward to making more.